Comments for Jason Esswein, M.S., LMFT http://jasonesswein.com Achieving Personal Effectiveness Through Insight and Self-Awareness Wed, 22 Feb 2012 21:38:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Why Do Women Love Bad Boys? by Jason Esswein, LMFT http://jasonesswein.com/418/why-do-women-love-bad-boys/#comment-241 Jason Esswein, LMFT Wed, 22 Feb 2012 21:38:56 +0000 http://jasonesswein.com/?p=418#comment-241 Good afternoon Deborah! I enjoyed what you wrote on your counseling page…very true and succinct. Regarding a teenage girl trying to save a bad boy, my short answer would be that she is bonded/attached to him. At that point, whether she sees him as strong or not may not be the motivating force behind her wish to remain in the relationship. Another factor could be her maternal instinct of wanting to nurture/change the bad boy…something that is almost always unlikely if not impossible. To address the appearance of strength issue, certainly his wish to leave the relationship gives him more power (something that can be interpreted as strong). It is my hope that this young woman is ready to embrace her worth (independent of any man’s approval) and take the risk of getting distance from the relationship. However, we all have our unique timing of when we’re “ready” to experience negative feelings in order to experience our joy, confidence, and worth. Thanks for your comment! Jason Esswein, LMFT jason@jasonesswein.com Good afternoon Deborah! I enjoyed what you wrote on your counseling page…very true and succinct. Regarding a teenage girl trying to save a bad boy, my short answer would be that she is bonded/attached to him. At that point, whether she sees him as strong or not may not be the motivating force behind her wish to remain in the relationship. Another factor could be her maternal instinct of wanting to nurture/change the bad boy…something that is almost always unlikely if not impossible. To address the appearance of strength issue, certainly his wish to leave the relationship gives him more power (something that can be interpreted as strong).

It is my hope that this young woman is ready to embrace her worth (independent of any man’s approval) and take the risk of getting distance from the relationship. However, we all have our unique timing of when we’re “ready” to experience negative feelings in order to experience our joy, confidence, and worth.

Thanks for your comment!

Jason Esswein, LMFT
jason@jasonesswein.com

]]> Comment on What Are You Broadcasting? by Jason Esswein http://jasonesswein.com/81/what-are-you-broadcasting/#comment-240 Jason Esswein Wed, 22 Feb 2012 21:35:49 +0000 http://organicthemes.com/demo/studio/?p=81#comment-240 Thanks Agenbola. Please let me know if you have any specific interests you would like addressed. Have a great weekend. Jason Esswein, LMFT jason@jasonesswein.com Thanks Agenbola. Please let me know if you have any specific interests you would like addressed. Have a great weekend.

Jason Esswein, LMFT
jason@jasonesswein.com

]]> Comment on Why Do Women Love Bad Boys? by Vimax France http://jasonesswein.com/418/why-do-women-love-bad-boys/#comment-190 Vimax France Mon, 20 Feb 2012 02:10:31 +0000 http://jasonesswein.com/?p=418#comment-190 Hey! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept chatting about this. I will forward this write-up to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Thanks for sharing! Hey! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept chatting about this. I will forward this write-up to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Thanks for sharing!

]]> Comment on What Are You Broadcasting? by agenbola http://jasonesswein.com/81/what-are-you-broadcasting/#comment-26 agenbola Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:05:27 +0000 http://organicthemes.com/demo/studio/?p=81#comment-26 Hiya! Fantastic blog! I happen to be a daily visitor to your site (somewhat more like addict :P ) of this website. Just wanted to say I appreciate your blogs and am looking forward for more to come! Hiya! Fantastic blog! I happen to be a daily visitor to your site (somewhat more like addict :P ) of this website. Just wanted to say I appreciate your blogs and am looking forward for more to come!

]]> Comment on Why Do Women Love Bad Boys? by Deb Kjar http://jasonesswein.com/418/why-do-women-love-bad-boys/#comment-17 Deb Kjar Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:38:15 +0000 http://jasonesswein.com/?p=418#comment-17 I would love to hear what either of you have to say about a teenage girl who tries to save the bad boy, then dates him and does not want to break-up, even if he does. Is she seeing him as strong? I would love to hear what either of you have to say about a teenage girl who tries to save the bad boy, then dates him and does not want to break-up, even if he does. Is she seeing him as strong?

]]> Comment on Why Do Women Love Bad Boys? by Dan Bolton http://jasonesswein.com/418/why-do-women-love-bad-boys/#comment-16 Dan Bolton Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:46:05 +0000 http://jasonesswein.com/?p=418#comment-16 Assertiveness is key! Sometimes the bad boys jerkiness is interpreted as strength to meet basic needs, but really covers over DV and/or emotional abusiveness waiting to happen. Nice guys often can be great at meeting basic needs and be great in bed, but their body language hides this and they appear weak and betray a confidence that only exists with validation from a woman. I love the subject Jason and blog about men's issues as well! Assertiveness is key! Sometimes the bad boys jerkiness is interpreted as strength to meet basic needs, but really covers over DV and/or emotional abusiveness waiting to happen. Nice guys often can be great at meeting basic needs and be great in bed, but their body language hides this and they appear weak and betray a confidence that only exists with validation from a woman. I love the subject Jason and blog about men’s issues as well!

]]> Comment on What Are You Broadcasting? by Kathy http://jasonesswein.com/81/what-are-you-broadcasting/#comment-10 Kathy Sat, 07 Jan 2012 07:29:46 +0000 http://organicthemes.com/demo/studio/?p=81#comment-10 Helpful ideas of how to become more aware of what we project or how we "show up" in the world. As an INTJ, I find it easy to stay "in my head" and not realize how my actions and energy are impacting others. Thanks for the great insight! Helpful ideas of how to become more aware of what we project or how we “show up” in the world. As an INTJ, I find it easy to stay “in my head” and not realize how my actions and energy are impacting others. Thanks for the great insight!

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